Some people don’t understand how important it is to take a little time out of your day and tell GOD what you’re grateful for. I understand that everyone gets a little busy and overwhelmed at times and that’s understandable. Sometimes our day seems to be going so bad to the point where we can only think about the bad things that are happening at that moment. Next time something bad happens to you don’t let it upset you, take that time to talk with yourself or GOD and explain how grateful you are for whatever happened because it could’ve been worse. More often than not when bad things happen to us we instantly dwell on the situation not realizing how blessed we are. I realized a while back that I felt much better when I thought of how blessed I was. It doesn’t matter what the situation is I always say “it’s not the end of the world, I’ll get through it”. I instantly start to state the things that I’m grateful for and I feel so rejuvenated!!!!! This task seems simple but I assure you that it really helps! Instead of beating yourself up or becoming angry try the technique that I stated above. Not only will you feel replenished but it also helps your personal growth!
With the new year being just a few hours away I have to encourage you to stay focused! No matter what pain or hardships this year has brought please remain focused. I understand that things may take a toll on you and that’s okay, take a little time to yourself and don’t forget what you’re capable of! Sometimes a fresh start is all you need to rethink life and get rid of things that mean you no good. Be a better you and don’t let anything or anyone distract you from your ultimate goal. This year transition into the person you’re destined to be. I know there are goals that you’ve created for yourself ACCOMPLISH THEM! Step out of your comfort zone and do something different and beneficial for your life. The most important thing is staying focused and not letting anything or anyone distract you from your success. Say no to negative energy and negative vibes! Be a better you for you! Happy New Year!
Whatever happened in 2017 be thankful for where it brought you no matter if it was a good experience or a bad one. With 2018 right around the corner it’s the perfect time for a fresh start! 12 new chapters, 365 new chances to do whatever you can think of in order to become a better you. Accomplish goals, break a bad habit, apply for a new job, do anything that supports your happiness. Even if 2017 has been a terrible year for you don’t let it destroy you! As hard as it may seem I KNOW that you’re capable of getting through it! There will be several opportunities with your name written all over them, even if it doesn’t go as planned take it as a learning experience. At least you took a risk and went for it! Remember, this is the beginning of anything you may want! The year is yours, what will you do with it?
Pastor Chaka posted “Sometimes You’re Not Being Buried You’re Being Planted, Change Your Perspective.” Life has its way of taking you through obstacles to mold you into a better person. Every disincentive event life takes you through try to make it positive. I know you may be wondering “HOW”?. Everything that life throws at you WILL NOT be pretty but take it as a lesson and learn from it. If you put yourself in that position try not to make the same mistake again and learn from it! No one is perfect but always remember a mistake isn’t a mistake if it’s repeated, it then becomes a choice. If this is an instance where you literally couldn’t avoid the situation take whatever you’re going through and consider it to be a lesson. If you’re experiencing rough times in life it’s almost impossible to see that you may be being planted! Sometimes we have to change our perspective and outlook on things just to reassure ourselves that it’s not the end! Everything happens for a reason to shape us into the people we’re meant to be so we can live our purpose. Everyone has a purpose of being here and I will assure you that sometimes you find your purpose when you THINK you’re being buried!
“Find your Fire”, when I say this I mean find something that you are extremely passionate about, it really doesn’t matter what it may be! This was something that I struggled with, I knew what I was good at but I couldn’t seem to implement it with something that I really enjoyed. “Finding your Fire” has to be the most powerful things that someone can do and just think about how you’d feel if you didn’t know your GOD given purpose. I must say that it is one of the most frustrating things that a person could ever experience I knew I wanted to be great and I knew GOD put me here to be great, but I just couldn’t figure out what it was that I wanted to do. I really felt as if I was suffocating, I didn’t feel like me! Day after day I would try new things but I didn’t feel passionate about anything. Then one day I forgot what my mind said and actually listened to my heart! I did something that scared me I trusted my instincts and I started doing what I loved to do, which is motivating others and giving advice. My advice to you is if you’re struggling to find your purpose TRY EVERYTHING! Along the way, you may find something that you’re good at and I’m sure if you’re good at it you’ll be passionate about it. If that doesn’t work take some time to meditate and think about what you’re good at. Always remember if you don’t think your talent is coming to you as fast as it should PLEASE don’t doubt yourself or become too hard on yourself. Everything takes time and just because “this person” has found their fire and accomplishing things don’t feel discouraged, YOU CAN DO IT!!! It’s not a race and it’s NOT about how fast you finish but solely about who finishes the race PERIOD!
April 28th, 2017 at 2:36 pm my life changed forever! Meeting Montravius Jr. for the first time was such a heartwarming moment. The day he came into our lives I knew what my purpose was, to love and protect! As I’m writing this article I’m shedding tears just thinking about how special that day was for us. As I held him in my arms all I could do was cry and thank GOD for the beautiful blessing that he’d given us. I held him for at least an hour just gazing into his eyes and promising him that I’d be the best mom that I could possibly be!
Being a mom is literally one of the greatest joys in life, at first, I didn’t know if I’d “get it right”. I will say every day isn’t PERFECT and there will be days when you drink a few cups of coffee just to get through the day. As a mother, my job is to take care of the POSSIBLE and trust GOD with the IMPOSSIBLE. At the end of the day, I promise it’s all worth it! As a mom, I’m learning about the strengths that I didn’t know I had and dealing with fears I didn’t know existed. I know that this is only the beginning and I have so much more to learn. I learn something about him every day and it’s really amazing! For a while, I just couldn’t picture myself being a mom but look at me now! I constantly go between wanting him to be my baby forever and being excited about all the amazing things that I’ll do in his life.
As a mom I just want my child to be GREAT, in order to do so, he will have to lead by example. In other words, I feel as if I owe that to him I WILL BE GREAT! There are several things that I will teach him that will only make him a better boy and eventually a man. WE ARE RAISING A KING!!!!
…And she loves a little boy VERY MUCH even more than she LOVED HERSELF. She calls him SON! Always remember when life gets hard and you feel all alone, remember you mean the world to someone and that someone calls you mom!
A few months ago I had the pleasure of meeting with an older couple, they were almost 70 years old. Older people are much wiser so I took some time to listen and learn from the information that they were providing. The woman then started to explain to me that they were high school sweethearts. They’d been together for 51 years and they’d been married for 40 years. While listening to this I was completely stunned at the time that they’d put into their relationship/marriage. Being I was completely shocked with this time frame the only thing I could ask was “how”?
The lady looked at me and said “forgiveness, honesty, and selflessness are the keys”! She said, “enjoy life and GROW together”! I thanked her for her wise words and I proceeded to leave. On the way home I thought about everything that was said and I began to put things together.
As teens and young adults, if we’re dating someone the ultimate goal is marriage. There is absolutely no need of being with a person if marriage isn’t a goal that is shared mutually. In order to get there, it must be certain qualities that are intact before tying the knot.
As we go through life there will be several instances where we will have to forgive, whether it’s your mate or a friend. Holding grudges isn’t healthy and it only gives the enemy power over you. We have to let go of whatever happened and move on with our lives with or without that person. Once you decide to forgive them you’ll feel so much better internally and externally. We can’t live life as peacefully as we should if we’re still holding on to this persistent feeling. LET IT GO!!
In a relationship or a friendship honesty is something that will either make or break the relationship. If you’re dating someone and you’ve previously misled them, more than likely they don’t trust you. Which is also a very important quality in any type of relationship, people have to learn to trust you. If you’ve misled them before it may be hard to gain their trust again which is a necessity in a relationship. No matter how hard it is, always try to tell the truth about any situation, people will respect you much more if you do so.
Selflessness is a quality that I had to improve, this involves friendships as well as my relationship. I always felt as if I should put myself first because no one can love me more than I can. I have a good heart and I felt as if I put my happiness first and kept people out of my corner there was no way that I could be hurt. I always tried to prevent things before they happened I didn’t give people a chance, I didn’t feel like people were as genuine as they said they were so I wouldn’t waste my time dealing with them at all. As you GO through life and GROW through life and you meet good people. People that teach you more than you can actually teach yourself. People that are extremely selfless, I was confused because I’d never came in contact with someone “relationship wise” that was so altruistic. I must say that after being with someone for so long their qualities start to rub off on you! He has always explained to me “you never know who you could meet if you don’t talk to them or let them in your circle”. This was extremely true because in today’s society it’s all about networking! I had to keep that in mind, I won’t just let anyone in but I usually can tell who’s a good spirit and who’s not.
Being able to grow with your mate is phenomenal! The things that the two of you will endure will only make you stronger! It’s always a pleasure to uplift others, but he’s always there to encourage me to be great and go even harder! He’s always in my corner telling me to “go for it”, “there isn’t anything that you can’t do”! Sometimes you need that extra push just to reassure you that you’re capable of doing something! At the end of the day, I thank GOD for the change that Montravius has created in me!