A few months ago I had the pleasure of meeting with an older couple, they were almost 70 years old. Older people are much wiser so I took some time to listen and learn from the information that they were providing. The woman then started to explain to me that they were high school sweethearts. They’d been together for 51 years and they’d been married for 40 years. While listening to this I was completely stunned at the time that they’d put into their relationship/marriage. Being I was completely shocked with this time frame the only thing I could ask was “how”?
The lady looked at me and said “forgiveness, honesty, and selflessness are the keys”! She said, “enjoy life and GROW together”! I thanked her for her wise words and I proceeded to leave. On the way home I thought about everything that was said and I began to put things together.
As teens and young adults, if we’re dating someone the ultimate goal is marriage. There is absolutely no need of being with a person if marriage isn’t a goal that is shared mutually. In order to get there, it must be certain qualities that are intact before tying the knot.
As we go through life there will be several instances where we will have to forgive, whether it’s your mate or a friend. Holding grudges isn’t healthy and it only gives the enemy power over you. We have to let go of whatever happened and move on with our lives with or without that person. Once you decide to forgive them you’ll feel so much better internally and externally. We can’t live life as peacefully as we should if we’re still holding on to this persistent feeling. LET IT GO!!
In a relationship or a friendship honesty is something that will either make or break the relationship. If you’re dating someone and you’ve previously misled them, more than likely they don’t trust you. Which is also a very important quality in any type of relationship, people have to learn to trust you. If you’ve misled them before it may be hard to gain their trust again which is a necessity in a relationship. No matter how hard it is, always try to tell the truth about any situation, people will respect you much more if you do so.
Selflessness is a quality that I had to improve, this involves friendships as well as my relationship. I always felt as if I should put myself first because no one can love me more than I can. I have a good heart and I felt as if I put my happiness first and kept people out of my corner there was no way that I could be hurt. I always tried to prevent things before they happened I didn’t give people a chance, I didn’t feel like people were as genuine as they said they were so I wouldn’t waste my time dealing with them at all. As you GO through life and GROW through life and you meet good people. People that teach you more than you can actually teach yourself. People that are extremely selfless, I was confused because I’d never came in contact with someone “relationship wise” that was so altruistic. I must say that after being with someone for so long their qualities start to rub off on you! He has always explained to me “you never know who you could meet if you don’t talk to them or let them in your circle”. This was extremely true because in today’s society it’s all about networking! I had to keep that in mind, I won’t just let anyone in but I usually can tell who’s a good spirit and who’s not.
Being able to grow with your mate is phenomenal! The things that the two of you will endure will only make you stronger! It’s always a pleasure to uplift others, but he’s always there to encourage me to be great and go even harder! He’s always in my corner telling me to “go for it”, “there isn’t anything that you can’t do”! Sometimes you need that extra push just to reassure you that you’re capable of doing something! At the end of the day, I thank GOD for the change that Montravius has created in me!